This is a topic I hate talking about and dread the day in my own life that I have to go through this. But in saying that it is a part of being a pet owner…( the worst part ) and it is important to talk about.

 

WHY OH WHY IS IT SOOO PAINFUL?

 

When you lose a pet there are so many losses we are mourning all at the same time and this is why the grief can be overwhelming.

  • THE LOSS OF OUR FURBABY…..BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR ANOTHER LIFE. WE SPEND LOTS OF TIME MAKING SURE OUR PETS NEEDS ARE TAKEN CARE OF.  AS A LOVING AN CARING PET OWNER THE NEEDS OF OUR PETS ARE VERY IMPORTANT TO US , LIKE WALKING, FEEDING AND PLAY TIME. WHEN ALL THIS ACTIVITY AND NEEDING YOU IS SUDDENLY GONE IT CAN FEEL SIMILAR TO THE LOSS OF A CHILD. ( OBVIOUSLY NOT THE SAME, BUT THE FEELINGS ARE VERY SIMILAR).

 

  • THE LOSS OF YOUR “PET PERSON”…..THEY HAVE BEEN THERE FOR ALL OF YOUR UPS AND DOWNS…UNCONDITIONALLY…YOU HAVE EXPRESSED THINGS TO THEM THAT YOU MAY NOT EXPRESS TO ANY HUMANS . THEY ARE THERE FOR YOUR SUCCESS, FAILURE, STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES AND THE HAVE SILENTLY PROVIDED US WITH LOVE AND SUPPORT AND COMFORT.

 

  • THE LOSS OF THAT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE !!!…OUR PETS NEVER JUDGE US. HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT THAT EASY AND CAN BE QUITE FULL OF FEELINGS OF REJECTION AND PRESSURE. IN TURN ALL OF THESE FEELINGS DICTATE HOW WE RESPOND AND WHAT WE SHARE WITH OTHERS. PETS LOVE US UNCONDITIONALLY …THEY ARE ALL IN WITH YOU…ACCEPTING YOU IN WAYS THAT ONLY FEW HUMANS CAN.

 

  • THE LOSS OF THE ROUTINE….. THIS ONE IS SO VERY HARD. WE HAVE SUCH A ROUTINE WITH OUR PETS BECAUSE THAT KIND OF STRUCTURE IS GOOD FOR THEM. SAYING “GOOD MORNING”, FEEDING TIMES, SAYING “HELLO” WHEN YOU COME HOME, CUDDLE TIME ON THE COUCH, WALKS AND PLAY TIMES……THIS BECOMES YOUR DAILY ROUTINE . WHEN IT SUDDENLY CHANGES IS IT CAN BE DEVASTATING . CHANGING THIS AND LEARNING A NEW ROUTINE TAKES TIME AND PATIENCE.

 

WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP ME COME TO TERMS WITH THE LOSS OF MY PET?

 

  • TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF…..KNOW THAT THIS IS REAL. YOU ARE SAD AND HAVE LOST YOUR BUDDY. TAKE IT EASY ON YOURSELF.  LIVE IN THE GRIEF….DON’T WISH YOU WERE ” OVER IT ‘ OF PAST IT ….LET THOSE SAD FEELINGS  PUMP THROUGH YOUR THOUGHTS….WEEP….THIS IS HOW IT WILL PASS. YOU ARE ARE IN MOURNING!!

 

  • FIND A FRIEND YOU CAN TALK TO…..MANY PEOPLE HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH PET LOSS…NOT ALL FEEL THE SAME WAY THOUGH. BUT I’M SURE YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO IS AS PASSIONATE ABOUT THEIR ANIMALS AS YOU ARE AND CAN HELP YOU IN YOUR MOURNING JOURNEY BY JUST LISTENING.. THERE ARE ALSO SOME PET BEREAVEMENT SITES ONLINE YOU CAN CHECK OUT.

 

  • GRADUALLY REMOVING YOUR PETS POSSESSIONS…EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT ….SOME WILL DO THIS VERY SLOWLY MAYBE JUST MOVING ALL THINGS INTO ONE ROOM BEFORE COMPLETELY DISPOSING OF THEM. SOME WILL JUST DO IT ALL IN ONE BIG SWOOP. WHATEVER IS EASIEST FOR YOU. SOME WITH KEEP IT IN A STORAGE BIN OR TRUNK FOR A WHILE UNTIL THEIR GRIEVING HAS PASSED AND THEN WILL BE ABLE TO PART WITH THE ITEMS…..THIS IS A VERY PERSONAL STEP AND THERE IS NO WRONG WAY.

 

  • MEMORIALIZE YOUR PET. HAVE A CEREMONY…..HUMANS ARE USED TO DOING THIS FOR THE ONES THEY LOVE. CREATE YOUR OWN CEREMONY FOR YOUR PET.  A SPECIAL PLACE, A SPECIAL TRIBUTE. PLANT SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN LOOK AT THAT REMINDS YOU OF THAT SPECIAL FURBABY THAT GAVE YOU SO MUCH LOVE. COME UP WITH SOMETHING SPECIAL AND THIS CAN BRING YOU JOY FOR YEARS TO COME.

 

THIS IS A TIME OF HEART WRENCHING SORROW. THEY COME INTO OUR WORLD AND HEARTS AND CHANGE US FOREVER. THEY OPEN US AND TEACH US HOW LOVE SHOULD REALLY BE. WE NEVER FORGET ANY OF THEM ……THE BOND IS TOO STRONG…UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN ” I WILL LOVE YOU MY BEST BUDDY ….FOR ALL OF MY LIFE”

THE TEARS ARE STREAMING DOWN MY CHEEKS AS I WRITE THIS………IF YOU ARE READING THIS I PRAY FOR YOU.

 

CAT LOVE

 

 

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